Being an everyday action in the lives of most of the people, lying made many minds wonder how to spot when a person is not telling the truth. In the attempt to answer this question old as human beings themselves, throughout time, myths and delusions have been developed. However, firm scientific explorations revealed facts and managed to break many of false beliefs.
Liars Can’t Look in the Eyes While Telling a Forgery – False
One of the biggest misconceptions about lying is that liars can’t look interlocutors in their eyes while implementing the manipulation of the truth. This is far from a fact as on many occasions liars are going to look you straight in the eyes. However, it can’t be pronounced for the universal rule because there are cases in which gaze tends to avoid direct eye contact which results in turning head aside or pulling glance down. Such behavior is mostly present with kids due to their inability to cope with feelings of guilt and shame. Those emotions are both weaker and suppressed when it comes to adults. It is the reason they are able to remain calm as well as the explanation of why people tend to be even unnaturally calm while lying. Liars tend to appear in a manner opposite to what is expected of an individual that is telling a lie. Most of the time, they exceed the limitations of normality in those attempts, making easy for professionals to spot that the truth is not told.
How to Conclude if the Truth is Not Being Told?
Observe for micro-movements on the face is what can get you the arguments for an estimate with a decent probability.
Micro-movements that can occur:
- Isolated or sequential uncontrolled skin jutting or vibration below the eyes.
- Small wrinkling at the angles of lips.
- Uncontrolled blink of a single eye.
- A fast drop of glance after which the previously established eye contact is reestablished.
In the beginning, it might seem tricky, but as time passes you will become more and more capable of catching these occurrences and establishing if what you are hearing is a lie or the truth.
Liars Speak Fast, Loud, and Throw Dozens of Words
Another often encountered delusion about lies is that they are told in an elaborate, fast and loud manner. While being significantly more existing than the previous behavioral pattern of evading eye contact, it cannot be taken for a rule. It is true that offense as a strategy for defense is widely used and very logical when the truth of someone’s narration is questioned. Liars are going to become loud, pretend to be offended and bestow an avalanche of words upon the unfaithful listener in the attempt to persuade them in the credibility of the story. This strategy can be successful especially with short runs and one time uses. Presenting offended and irritated might induce people to reconsider their misbeliefs and even feel guilty for expressing and having doubts in a man who is hurt by the mere acknowledgment of being perceived as a liar. Yet this tactic doesn’t always prove useful especially if it is repetitively conducted over the same group of listeners. It is why liars had to evolve and change their approach in a more acceptable manner. They learned to be both brief and concise in their elaborations.
How to Recognize Well Planned Lie
While listening, pay attention to these traits:
- Speech can be almost too concise.
- Sub-questions are answered instantly. This indicates that everything has been planned in detail and can be a sign of forgery.
- Lack of body speech. If a person is to calm and makes no gesticulations or expressions it could be due to a tension of following the script.
Psychopaths are Perfect Liars
Due to the absence of fear or any other emotion, psychopaths are not either better or worse liars from the rest. What makes them “good” in forgeries is their charm that can be addictive to the level in which we, despite all obvious pieces of evidence, want to believe in every word they say.
Ladies are Both Better Liars and Lie Detectors Than Men
Neither of the two statements is true. There are no gender predispositions or advantages when it comes to distortion of the truth. However, it is a fact that ladies, due to their psychical inferiority, were highly oppressed throughout history which forced them to be cunning and achieve their goals by lying and manipulating. It is how prejudice was created. In addition to this, ladies are famous for their “jealous nagging” they like to equalize with the intuition. In cases which they were right, their sixth sense gets all the credits.
Universal Formula for Lie Discovery
The beginning of the universal formula for spotting lies is understanding that without having hard pieces of evidence you can’t be certain if something is true or not. When evaluating the credibility of somebody’s story the most you can achieve to extract is an estimate with high probability. In order to do so, multiple factors which vary from one person to another must be taken into consideration
Factors to consider:
- The comparison reference must be established. This means that, through observation, we need to establish the features of someone’s normal behavior. It will serve as the basis for spotting deviations which could be triggered by lying.
- Distinguishing behavioral deviations and their triggers. It is of high importance to understand that there can be both physical and psychological aberrations triggered by either physical or psychological, or combined factors of the human whole. During the conversation, an instant increase of blinking could be caused by the dust raised on wind rather than lying. It is why we need to be sure of the nature of the cause responsible for the change in behavior.
- Learn motives. To truly understand someone’s behavior requires you to gather the motives of their actions. Knowing them will help you measure the risk and gains present in other person’s engagement in lying and help you come to the right conclusion.
- Examine the past. One of the best things to do when asking yourself is someone is lying to you is to take a look at his/her past. Over longer periods of time, most of the people can be described through constant patterns of behaviors and habits. If you are a businessman confronted with the potential partner associated with past featured by lie and trickeries, it is very likely that you are going to end as one of his victims.