First and foremost, we must understand what premature ejaculation really is. It is the most usual sexual dysfunction that affects 20%-30% of all men. While there is no precise definition it is widely accepted that ejaculation is premature if it takes place after less than 3 minutes of intercourse. But there is a catch. It only counts as premature if a man had no way to postpone it. This is due to the fact that little in numbers are those capable of lasting more than a couple of minutes without any adjustment to stimulation.
Most of the men have at least once faced with their inability to last long enough and get their lady satisfied. So, the natural question is, how to postpone ejaculation and be the lover she deserves?
There are multiple ways, exercises, and tricks to last longer. Due to the nature of the funny video commercial of a novel you have just watched, we will start with the one with thoughts.
Can We Postpone Ejaculation With Thoughts?
Many believe that the human mind is a tool of omnipotence. Therefore, anything is possible. That applies to postponing ejaculation as well. In order to prolong sex, you should start thinking about things that are opposed to your excitement. The book video shoved it in a funny way which is actually right. While you don’t have to imagine sharks eating grannies or men couple eating pizza, you should definitely focus your thoughts on something that is asexual to you. Another important thing is when are you going to do it. Using thoughts when you are on the brink of being over is too late. You should cool yourself with thoughts and start slowing yourself down when you are a little ahead of your halfway. However, it is important not to overdo it. If you get too distant in your mind and forget where you are your erection could fade away. You must find the right measure in which you are going to drop your pleasure. And don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t work at first. Skill takes time to achieve.
Another solution to help you last longer is to masturbate an hour or two before sex. This way your second erection is going to last longer. But be aware. If you haven’t ejaculated for a longer period of time it can happen that you exhaust your capacities and not be able to arouse when the time comes.
Freeze and Tease
Freeze and tease also known as the stop and start technique is one very effective way to help you improve. It is achieved by stopping the sexual activity at the moment you feel that the ejaculation is near. This means that you should stop penetration and wait for your arousal to drop before continuing. This should be done as many times as necessary. Eventually, your natural endurance should increase and allow you to consume the pleasure of higher intensity without having to stop.
Train Your Pelvic Floor
One of the most effective ways to postpone ejaculation is training your pelvic floor. The goal of exercises that should be performed on a daily basis is to increase the strength of pelvic muscles. They require no special conditions to complete. Next time when you go to the bathroom to pee you should stop somewhere around the mid-stream. This will help you to identify the group of pelvic muscles that are capable of helping you in postponing your ejaculation. After doing so, you are ready for the second step. Lay down and start contracting your pelvic floor muscles. Keep them contracted for 3 seconds and then release them for three seconds. Ten sequential repetitions, three times a day is what should start with. As you advance, you should increase the time of contraction and change the pose – do it while you stand or walk.
Important note: watch that you only activate your pelvic floor muscles(no abs or back).
One of the ways to postpone ejaculation is to use thick condoms. Having an additional layer between your penis and her vagina can decrease the feeling of pleasure and therefore increase your time.
Explore Your Psychology – Settle Your Life
Before you start doing any of those exercises you should check if the cause of your premature ejaculation is in your psychology. Depression is one of the prominent causes of premature ejaculation. If you are depressed, then, before anything else, you should try to settle your life. And it’s not only about the depression. If you are exposed to a lot of stress it is very likely that you might suffer some erectile dysfunction. The same applies to being overweight or smoking a lot. You must be able to maintain your psychological and physical health in order to be able to have a decent sexual life.
Should You Postpone Ejaculation?
We have already established that by formal criteria, premature ejaculation is a man’s inability to postpone his climax in a time duration less than three minutes. While four or five minutes is also tin ice we should ask ourselves if our partner really enjoys us. This is due to a fact that we might be facing sexual incompatibility rather than our own insufficiency.
First and foremost, man being less resistant to pleasure and therefore less endurant is a biological design. The reason for this is that the goal of sexual intercourse is reproduction which is achievable only after a man releases his seed inside a woman. To assure intercourses last long enough biology decided that men should climax faster.
However, this does not mean that you should use it as an excuse and not try to satisfy your lady. But you should also think if the two of you are the right match. If you, for example, are capable of having sex for seven and eight minutes, and your partner never even got near the climax it might be a mismatch rather than your insufficiency. Remember that the strongest passions can result in a both-sided orgasm that can be achieved in moments. If your lady always needs more than 15 minutes to reach her peak then either she has a problem, or she is not attracted to you enough.
I Can’t Lead Her To Orgasm But We Want Our Relationship To Last: What Do I Do?
If everything else is great in your relationship it would be a shame to throw all that away because of sex. Luckily, penetrative sex is not the only option. According to many kinds of researches, oral pleasure can provide a woman an orgasm of higher intensity than it would be possible through regular sex. And to do that, you need nothing but a will to try until you succeed.