People lie on a daily basis. Therefore, it is good to know some basic and scientifically proven facts about lying which can help us make a difference between those that are telling the truth and the ones trying to manipulate us. Determining the cause of this phenomenon is a demanding venture as people don’t always lie to achieve personal gain or evade punishment.
Facts About Lying
The phenomenon of people maneuvering facts in order to push their interlocutors into a different way of perceiving reality has been examined through millennia. While the universal formula for establishing when someone is lying still isn’t known there are some patterns that are very likely to occur.
Writing is the Most Fertile Soil for Lies
During scientific research, a new discovery emerged pointing out that people are more likely to lie when writing rather than in face to face communication. This can be explained with the lack of conscience as screens on our phones lower the feeling of reality releasing us from guilt. However, this isn’t the case when it comes to writing letters. When you put every word on paper with your own hand and conclude everything you have stated with a signature, there is a larger presence of inconvenience if the truth was intentionally distorted. This is probably the consequence of the rules of the societies we live in. While most of the time, whatever is written on social networks goes without any penalty, the signature is related to the activities that encompass real legal responsibilities (contracts, fee agreements, etc…). That might be the reason why chat-box is the place where lies flourish. Think twice after reading messages on your phone.
Bearded People Are Observed as Truthful
Bearded men are in favor of positive prejudice which, despite any pieces of evidence, observes them as truthful. Although this is not going to be the case for all people, it is more likely for a person to associate shaved male to lying rather than one with large facial hair. This can be explained with human biology and ancestor’s genes. During cave time, when people were in the biggest touch with nature and their primal instincts, males had beards. Back then, there were no shortcuts. People needed to be strong to survive. You weren’t able to lie hunger or thirst. Instead, people had to hunt down their prey and find a source of drinking water. In order for communities to survive and develop, jobs needed to be done and there was no place for manipulation like there is today. This surmise is a longshot but it can, with some degree of logic, explain how this prejudice got curved in our psychologies.
Lying Causes Diseases
Causing additional stress due to worry of being discovered, lying is tightly connected to diseases. On both organic and psychological levels, it can cause discords and on rare occasions, lead to severe consequences. Tremendous amounts of lying can be indicators of sociopathy or even psychopathy as such behavior is possible only in the complete absence of empathy and feeling of guilt.
Lying Boosts Creativity
One of the positive sides of lying is that people are forced to be creative. If a person is made to commit a sequence of false statements, in order to avoid getting caught, he/she must incline towards inventing new stories and details so that consistency is preserved. With time, that kind of living causes an effect of permanent enhancement in the area of an individual’s inventing abilities.
It is Harder to Lie the Person We Are Attracted To
The attraction is the enemy of lies. When we are in love or even sexually attracted to a person, it will be harder for us to invent the stories or implement manipulative maneuvers. This is due to the fact that our body and mind tend to create a close relationship based on good things like gentleness, spiritual and physical joy, etc… However, the intention of conducting manipulation over the entity that is related and perceived in the light of positivity causes discord. The guilt, shame, and enhanced fear of being discovered and losing the person we are attracted to emerge as new obstacles on the way of our manipulative intentions.
People Are Not So Good in Detecting Lies
Although it might look like some people have the ability to read minds, those individuals are very low in numbers. Most people are terrible when it comes to detecting lies. However, it’s not just about the lack of intuition. There are many wrong surmises circling around and spreading misinformation on how to recognize when a person is not telling the truth.
The most usual negative prejudices about lying:
- When lying, an individual will have a problem when looking in the eyes of a person that is being lied to. The truth can be completely opposite as liars very often tend to look straight in the eyes in order to look self-confident and cover any doubts.
- Lies are told with a lot of words, usually through the persuasive clamor. Another false generalization as there are many examples when misconceptions are spread with a brief speech and quiet tone.
- Lie detector can see if someone is lying. This is absolutely not true. What lie detector does is measuring of tension level that usually goes up when a lie is told. This means that, in cases of a well-trained individual capable of handling emotions or the person that believes in his/her perception of reality, the instrument is useless.
Is Lying Related to Gender
One of the most famous questions is which gender lies more and who is better at it? Opinions are shared when it comes to answering this question. Some believe that, due to their lower position in societies throughout history, women had to find indirect ways of achieving goals which often meant to lie and manipulate which is why eventually they became used to solve problems in such ways. Others claim that men carry the title of bigger liars. However, this is a very broad topic that will be discussed in another article. For now, we are interested to hear what do you think. Below is a poll you can participate in and share your opinion.